Tag: Love is Blind

Two Single People As One

We all would love to have someone who totally gets us. The type of humor, the concerns, the personal needs, the perceptions, and the understanding of goals in life. For two people to be as one is a relationship with very low divisions and misunderstandings between them. It is like the old saying, “united we stand, divided we fall” meaning together you can make a solid stand in life and divided you are on your own.

“Two People As One” is the perfect dream relationship. It is a relationship in which two parties act as one mind, heart, body, and spirit. It is a relationship you know what the other is going to say before they say it. It is like those people you meet that can finish each others sentences. They know to do things without any words being said and the moods they are in even if they are trying to hide them.

A term we all have come to know over the years about a relationship being one has been called, “soul mates“. Some call the oneness in temperament, attitude, or beliefs as “soul mates“. It is a connection in perception and understanding of your spirit to the other person’s spirit – all the inside stuff. Does this not sound like “Two Single People as One“?

WHAT YOU DON’T SEE

There are multiple factors involved with dating and courtships. The majority of us only see the basics we are looking for in a person. Our bodies is the first thing everyone sees, which is surface judgment. The activities you are doing is another aspect and the talking also plays a part. You see how they handle themselves, interact with others, and what they have that you like known as the attraction.

This is where a certain blindness occurs. All of us have two influential sources voicing their opinions in our minds. These influences will guide us to certain areas of our bodies. Our eyes will narrow down to certain areas we want the most to have in our lives. Our ears will hear only the things we want to hear oblivious to other truthful hints to their personality. Our nose will draw in the enchanting aromas we love to smell. Our taste buds will absorb the flavors we love the most ignoring any bad things. Our sense of touch will arouse feelings of addictions.

The phrase “love is blind” is a reference towards a narrow focus a person may have towards someone or thing. You are locked on one/two aspect(s) of a person or thing. The blindness is in “the source” guiding us towards the person we want to date, get with, or even to marry. Knowing the source is the “what we don’t see“. Our personal goals we want to achieve and/or the physical pleasure is the deception making “love is blind” to other things that could actually be deal breakers.

MANY SOURCES BEHIND YOUR EYES

This is where all of us differ in the sources inside of ourselves we listen to the most. This is where you can imagine what percentages of the sources you give permission to guide you. If you don’t know your sources. I hope at the end you will see these “behind the scenes” sources that have been influencing your decisions.

The first and foremost hidden driving source/reason is the flesh. Some people get in their heads they want to be one with someone because of their body only. This is the source of the flesh wanting flesh. The depth of becoming one is based on the level of your flesh wanting their flesh without knowing their sources/reasons for desiring you. You are looking from one angle while they might be looking from another angle. For some this is all they want, which reveals the source they live this life by. Flesh on flesh is a natural thing that everyone can do just like nature, but the inside attitudes comes with those bodies you have to deal with on a daily basis.

The flesh source/reason can focus a certain color of hair and length it wants. Do you like a certain color of hair or even baldness? A certain kind of height and weight can be a preference of the flesh source guiding your eyes. Your flesh source can watch certain activities the person is doing and narrow your vision to those things whether it is how they carry themselves, body parts, dance, sing, play sports, art, special programs, church activities, politics, and many other things I am sure you can think of.

This is only one part of yourself seeking to be one with someone else based on the flesh source. This is a drawing power you feel from your flesh wanting to be one with their flesh. This is only your flesh source, excluding your spirit side and NOT truly knowing their source for wanting you. Your flesh is not all of you. You have your spirit side of ways of thinking when your flesh is talking so much.

LOPSIDED UNBALANCED RELATIONSHIP

Once you achieve what your flesh source guided you into believing you wanted a reality sets in about what they truly wanted. Your flesh to flesh may not match their flesh and spirit desires. You find out the hard way their attitude, way of thinking, way of doing things, and mannerisms do not match any of yours. In this relationship all you have is a flesh to flesh and their desires are not at your level of desires. You find out that you two cannot be one because what you want to be one with the most is not what they want to be one with.

Their spirit is the temperament, attitude, beliefs, habits, and mannerisms source guiding them along with their flesh source. Everybody wants an idea body for a mate, but their attitude maybe focused on something else. People who have goals, certain careers, and status in life could be looking at you past your body into what you would bring to their goals in life. What would you add in support to their career. Your body may not be the main source of their focus on you. It could be focused on who you are connected to, what you represent, or the status you possess.

You could be 80% flesh driven and they maybe 20% flesh driven with an 80% attitude driven, but this is not discovered until way later in the relationship when the truth comes out. The flesh driven could be like the girl who wants the quarterback and will do whatever to convince him to look in her direction. Her point of source could be unbalanced to the career the quarterback wants to have in a woman or vice versa. It is a tricky deception that can be in both people.

WHAT YOU HEAR

You hear from people throughout life saying different reasons why they married the person they married. Some would bluntly say, “I married her/him for her body“, “I married him/her for the stability“, “I married because of a career goal“, “I married because I did not have a any or better choice“, “I thought we would make beautiful children“, “…because of kindness“, “…we completed each other” “… I did not want to be alone“, “…a sure thing and security“.

You can break down everyone of these reasons to the hidden sources driving the decisions whether good or bad. You will find out shocking truths. If you are an accountable person the reality could be hurtful or good. No matter how noble or selfish the long term relationship will not be “Two People As One“.

AWFUL TRUTH

My flesh and your flesh has its own agenda. If we did NOT control it to some degree. We eat all the cookies, ice cream, candies, and other foods in the world we want. This same fleshly source is speaking to your mind its own agenda of pleasures convincing you about another person you think you want or have got to have. What the flesh wants is not always good for you, especially if you are looking the ideal of another person completing you as one.

My spirit and your spirit has its own agenda. If we did NOT control it to some degree. We would mentally lock onto things convinced into the mind to the point of total blindness to reality and truth. Our spirit can become so jealous or envious the thoughts can easily imagine dangerous ways of forcing things in our direction. What we focus our minds on are not always meant to be for us, especially if it is a person we “think” will be a certain way matching our fantasies.

We have our spirit and flesh deceptions within ourselves and they have their spirit and flesh deceptions within themselves bringing together two blind people who are only seeing one thing.

TWO PEOPLE AS TWO

After you get with someone the hidden sources in yourself come to the surface of your expectations and the hidden sources they live by come to the surface revealing you are NOT as one as you first thought. After the dating is over and the day to day routine sets in some unexpected traits emerge exposing their reason of getting with you. Your first year of marriage is always the toughest because these things come out now that you feel you got them.

Your 80% reason of getting together does not match their 80% reason. You may have been after their body, but their body does not want that part from you as much. They wanted more of communication and let the other happen every once in a while. You may have been after them for a career they knew you liked, but their career was to play house and not go anywhere in life. These are devastating discoveries.

The relationship you thought was going to be as one turns out to be two people with separate goals and needs. Your needs does not match what they think are needs and their needs do not match what you think are needs. The hidden sources driving you towards them and their hidden sources driving them towards you come to the surface as opposites.

Two people that came together as one end up as two separate roommates in the same home sharing the needs of the bills and chores of the home. One may become more of a caretaker of the other making up for the hidden truth of themselves during the dating period. One may become a constant teacher to the other explaining things that would normally be understood by an average person. One may become the manager of the money because the hidden source in the other was to spend money today and worry about it tomorrow. It becomes a roommate sharing a place doing the things expected for maintaining the place and not the relationship.

THE GOOD ONES

The good ones put up with the hidden sources of their mate. They are always being there for them when an average person would need no help. The good one is always being resourceful and a solutionist for the mate they thought would be a partner of completion. One mate ends up with 80% (this percentage may run higher or lower) burden of the other instead of sharing a life equal one with another leaving them lacking with life they wanted to live.

The good ones are the ones that hang into the relationships as long as they can. Some actually are so committed to the relationship that death from either one and/or divorce from the other is what they are waiting for. The good ones have fallen victim to the hidden sources in themselves misleading them about the other and the other hiding their motives for wanting to be with them.

It is a terrible thing when you finally see the hidden sources/reasons after the fact and you find out you were partially at fault. Especially, if you are a person who takes responsibility for your own actions.

THE KNOWING/NOT KNOWING BAD ONES

In this search for a mate to “complete you” runs into those who are looking for someone to be a slave to their desires. Some know purposely what they are doing to trap the good ones and some subconsciously act out the part the good ones are looking for hiding their own hidden agendas. The bad ones have a hidden “my way the highway” and “it is my world and you live in it” attitude, but it is not revealed during the dating stages. The hidden sources in both parties unrevealed.

The bad ones are the ones that hang into a relationship because they know they have a good thing and why would they leave. Some are aware of their selfish ways and some are oblivious to the hurt and pain of their selfishness. Some bad ones have a “don’t care” that was no where around in the facade of “love you” front during the dating.

BETWEEN A ROCK AND A HARD SPOT

The common factor of the hidden sources are founded upon “selfishness“. You are listening to your sources as you are looking for the person that matches your ideas. They are watching you to see if you match the ideas of their hidden sources. All of us are drawing our desires from the hidden sources within ourselves not knowing completely our flesh is wanting a flesh relationship, our eyes are wanting a certain status, and our pride is wanting a specific matching level. This creates a tough spot between seeing and hearing with clear perception and understanding of the person you are interested. This is the blindness battleground inside of us if we are aware and “if not” then the tunnel vision of our desires takes over.

“Selfishness” can hid itself in good intentions or purposely known with bad intentions. Bad “Selfishness” is the kind that refuses to change. It wants what it wants. It is the kind that demands you to adapt to their ways forsaking your thoughts or ideas. Good intentions “Selfishness” may have a noble cause in mind, but that is all it sees and it will miss any clues that will be toxic to the cause. The merging as one is lost and the fight for happiness becomes a survival daily task.

NO FIX FOR SOME

“No Fix For Some” are the ones who are in denial or cannot see themselves at all in actions or process of thought. All the helps in the world cannot fix the hidden sources in a person if they are “NOT WILLING” to compromise into a mutual agreement. If you marry such a person you will never be on equal ground. They will always be in their world doing things their way and you are left with getting on their highway regardless of what you think. This is a person conscious or subconsciously concerned with themselves, concentrating on their own advantages, pleasures, and well-being without regard of others. Changing is totally their choice and God’s department.

It is like the old saying, “you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink“. You can try all kinds of different methods to try to help them for years and only see a tiny change if any. You can go to all the marriage counseling, if you can get them there, all you want, but it will still be based upon a “willing to change” factor. The people who have a “Two People As One” marriage or relationship have NO CLUE or experience to advise those who are in a divided personality and physical goals in life. You can read a book, but it is dead without real life experiences. You can have all the faith in the world, but without some works or actions that faith is dead.

A person cannot be fixed when they are locked onto the desires of their selfish flesh, desire of their eyes, and the selfish pride of their life (1 Jn. 2:16). It is a clash of their hidden sources they draw from to your hidden sources you draw from opposing you both from becoming as one – the soul mate relationship. Optimistic is great, having faith is great, but there are still people today who act like Pharaoh did towards Moses refusing to change.

Sad Side Note: Unfortunately, it is sad to say some people fall into the category of a relationship they were to be the caretaker of the other because without your goodness God gave you they would be lost and possibly abused by someone else with less understanding of their issues.

TWO PEOPLE AS ONE

You cannot follow your heart alone and end up with the right person. You cannot follow your mind alone and end up with the right person. You cannot follow your spirit alone and end up with the right person. Each one of these alone WILL guide you into the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life. The desire of the flesh, eyes, and pride of life are not only inside in you, but also in the one you locked your eyes upon to date and marry.

To find the person God meant for you takes your mind, heart, and soul while listening to God. A clear mind is essential in seeing the clues of the raw truth about the other person discerning what things would be a deal breaker that you could not tolerate or live with the rest of your life. The controlling belief of the heart watching for parallel desires and passions because the needs of the two must be able to support, satisfy, and complete each other – not one sided. The soul must maintain a clear connection with God patiently listening and willing to accept truth that may be hard, but none the less the truth that leads to a freedom in the relationship of becoming one.

TAKE THE TIME

The sources within our flesh put a pressure of hurry up and find someone or you will never have anyone. The flesh will lie with it is better to have anyone than no one. Taking the time to see with perception and watch with understanding goes against that “hurry up” feeling. Patiently, finding the right one is better than the wrong one and even if you end up with no one. If you end up with no one you will find there are people in your life that need you and rely upon you like that special someone in your life.

Taking the time will help you sift through the person who is looking for a marriage of flesh to flesh only and not realizing it until after some time in marriage when their needs are not being satisfied. Anyone can have a physical flesh to flesh relationship, but it is the spirit to spirit that NOT everyone finds. You better count yourself extremely blessed if you have a relationship that is flesh to flesh needs and spirit to spirit fellowship – EXTREMELY BLESSED.

The ratios in marriages today of being uneven are more than ever before if you look at the divorce rate. This is because the “Take the Time” factor was overtaken and the “need it now” pushed it aside and charged forward. Your 80% fleshly needs could be conflicting with her 20% fleshly needs, while she is wanting the 80% companionship to be satisfied with your hidden 10% companionship desires.

START AN UNSPOKEN TEST

You need to come up with a good and not a hurtful test. This is just an example and not a complete answer. (1) On the first date see if they will go out with you and just have fun as though you were both best friends with no real physical contact or a kiss at the end of the date – watch their body language and reaction. This could be applied to several dates to see if they like you for your fellowship or is it your body they want.

(1a) If they are upset with you afterwards or you hear they have talked about you later then their source of influence was more than likely 80% and higher from their flesh. They wanted a flesh to flesh relationship. Flesh to flesh relationships make you just a number added to their bragging rights.

(1b) If they were fine with no physical participation it could be patients on their part of the 80% flesh or there is more to their hidden source than 80% flesh. There could be a mixture of spirit to spirit relationship. Some of the most successful “Two People As One” marriages have come from being “best friends” foundation. Someone you can laugh with, share your deepest feelings and thoughts with them understanding equally with you.

(2) On the date you feel it is alright you could test them with a holding of hands. At this time there will be a stress on those who are 80% wanting a flesh to flesh relationship or if they truly enjoy your spirit (way of thinking, humor, personality, etc) they will count holding your hand as an awesome thing and no problem if it goes no further than that on the date. Take the time to find out what they truly want from you and at the same time asking yourself what you want from them.

(2a) Their words and personality will change applying pressure and the “whys” pop out. This is a clue their hidden source to being with you is a higher percentage of their body wanting your body and not so much your personality inside. Anyone can be physical with one another because it is nature at work, but what nature does not consider is the afterwards when spirit to spirit have to get along with the pressures of life.

(2b) If they are happy with you and your limitations with a “just glad to be with you” attitude. You may have someone who is more balanced with their hidden sources guiding them. It could be a 70% flesh and 30% spirit. You will not truly know until you continue to watch and listen.

(3) If they have lasted a long time with the limitations. You can start testing the goals in life they have, get them talking about what they love the most, find out their hobbies, and anything they focus their hidden sources of influence on. Try to see them in all situations before committing yourself further. For example try to see them in a sad, frustrated, mad, pet pees, and stressful moments to see their true nature. Everyone tends to put their best side forward during the capturing you stages.

People can hold up an outward appearances very well and it is up to you make them feel free to be themselves revealing their true nature while you are deciding if you match them equally. The hidden sources can deceive them and yourself if you allow them to go unchecked. Spare yourself from a life-time commitment to someone who is 90% about themselves and 10% about your needs.

If you are trying to live up to marrying one person for the rest of your life, a careful and watchful approach may save you from being miserable, incomplete, and starving for a fulfilled life. No one truly understands Apostle Paul when he said, “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.” (1 Cor. 7:8) until they are in a marriage that is difficult.

May God bless you with overflowing wisdom in finding your “Two Single People As One” and for those who are in the situation of being “Two People As Two” (like roommates), the extra wish of an inward deep fellowship of God’s Spirit upon you in a double portion measurement.

See Blind Love

“Do you love something or someone?” a person may ask you. They are asking for a level of your affection. If you are ‘OK‘ with something or someone this could be considered as a low-level of neutral feelings. If you ‘like‘ something or someone this could be a step up to a medium level of fondness. If you ‘love‘ something or someone this could be thought as a high level of affection. These levels can be visualized as a thermostat control of ‘Low‘, ‘Medium‘, and ‘High‘ above the dial. The something or someone they asked you about may be on the first level of ‘OK‘ with the you could do with or without them having any effects on yourself. The second level of ‘like‘ may be something you want to keep, but if not the loss would not be overwhelming. The third level of ‘love‘ could effect you greatly depending on the depth of love inside of you. Love is the deepest of affection one could have towards something or someone. Loving something or someone has different levels and sides to it. You could be with a clearly seeing or a totally blind with your love.

“Love is Blind” is a statement some will say at times of deception, favoritism,  or ambition. “Love is Seeing” could be a statement some one would say at times of absolute truth, pure balance, or without selfish intent. ‘Love‘ has more levels than we give it credit with seeing and blindness on each level waiting to takes its place in our lives.

Love is the looking upon something determining a wanting it decision, locking a desire upon it, and a longing energy towards it. The mind takes in the information, the heart forms the belief, and the soul applies the function/action of the will. For love to be true and pure in all three levels there must be an alignment and in one accord with each other for there to be clarity of sight without blindness. Blindness comes when anyone of these levels are excluded from the totality of the basis of your love upon something or someone. I apologize that was a little deep of a statement here in the beginning, but togetherness of our mind, heart, and soul in clarity is essential to all focusing their love upon someone or some thing.

The mind, the heart, and the soul are the three basic levels that love exists inside of us. Love can exist in the mind only dragging along behind it the heart and the soul. Love can exist in the heart with blackout glasses over the mind and the soul. Love can exist in the soul (will) leaving behind the mind and the heart. Love, also, can exist in the mind, the heart, and the soul making these three as one in complete unity.

Seeing is an ingredient on each level of the mind, heart, and soul with the potential of a clear sight of understanding and perception (all three can see). Blindness is an ingredient on each level of the mind, heart, and soul with the ability to deceive and hide if left unchecked. Without all three levels with clear sight blindness hinders your vision to the fullness of truth of what is before you. If you have one ingredient that is sweet and the other two ingredients are bitter the final outcome will be dominated by the bitter ingredients leaving an awful taste in your mouth. It would be like pouring fresh water into a glass and pouring sea water into the same glass. The salty sea water would corrupt the fresh water overtaking the freshness and converting it all into one bitter salty taste.  They cannot exist together in the same glass without corrupting the other so it is with love in our mind, heart, and soul inside of us. We are the glass. The ingredients must be one in agreement for the completeness of love to be truly a sweet experience.

MIND – THOUGHTS/IDEA

You can love something or someone from your mind alone leaving the heart and soul in blindness. A young teenage boy saw a beautiful blonde teenage girl at school one day. He looked at her height, length of blonde hair, athletic body, the beautiful smile, and the care free laughter she would release in the school hallways. He took in all this information into his mind falling in love with the idea of her being his ideal girlfriend. His mind develops this dreamer’s dream of her being his girlfriend overtaking the heart and soul’s opinions. He went through all the steps of making himself available to her. He carried her books. He watched for her safety. He walked her to class every chance he could even at the sacrifice of being late to his own class. His mind drank deeply of her smile, her eyes, and her sweet personality. When the mind fantasizes it is a powerful thing. A lie can be a truth to that mind until the lie is challenged revealing the real truth.

After many months of being by her side as much as possible with her treating him as only a good friend the dream of his mind faced some thoughts of reality. He began to question the motives of his mind with all the sacrificial actions he had taken for this idea to come true. He sat down with himself bringing into the room his mind, his heart, and his soul together to do some self examinations. Realization connected on the table between his mind, heart, and soul producing the truth of the idea/thought of love for her. He only loved her with his thoughts. His mind was seeing only one side while he left his heart and soul in darkness. Now, the light was turned on for all three to see together with understanding and perception. It is not complete love when only one member agrees. The once dreamer lost his dream. He finally came to himself and stopped chasing after her understanding it was not true love and began to go to class like normal before her.

A few days went by without seeing this beautiful blonde girl at school to his surprise she had hunted him down in the hallway. She asked him why did he stop coming around her. His eyes were open seeing her as someone who had become accustomed and attached to his being her beck and call. She missed him not because she loved him with all three levels, but the love of his being there for her. He told her in explanation that the dreamer had lost his dream of her with a thank you for the times that they did spent together and that they would always be friends as she had kept it. This seeing reality of truth caused the young teenager never to look back again in her direction with his mind only.

This was his first lesson on infatuation on his own (hard knocks of life). A life lesson he was able break free from before getting out of control. His mind had subconsciously locked onto the admiration of her like an athlete going after a trophy. The input of his heart and his soul were the two ingredients that something was not right about the relationship. Can you recall something or someone your  mind has locked onto the idea of loving it to find the reality was totally different? Loving something with your mind only is a perfect picture to understand  with your eyes you can see, but your mind can be blind by its own thoughts of what it thinks to be the truth. This is how you can be blind on the inside and still have eyes that can see what is physically in front of you. All of our minds need assistance and help to stay on the track of truth.

HEART – BELIEF/BELIEVING

If one part of you is out of alignment (mind, heart, and soul) all kinds of chaos can occur in your life. I almost feel I could get an ‘Amen’ out of you who have had this kind of experience. A popular girl started coming around and started paying attention to this young man. He welcomed the attention of this beautiful cheerleader girl. Her kindness, joy, and enthusiasm swept him totally away. She no longer had to go find him for his attention for he was now finding her to get more of her attention. His heart was hooked and she was reeling his heart in like a fish. They started going places and doing things together. She laughed, smiled, batted her eyes, giggled, and many other cute gestures filling the air with sweet persuasion over his heart. He was totally caught up with believing in her outward appearance of love towards him. He would never believe she was anything else, but true and faithful to him. His mind and soul were locked out of the control room while the heart blindly drove recklessly his entire body.

He walked her to class and left her with plenty of time before the bell would ring. He had forgotten something and went back to find her hugging another guy and kissing him before class. He was drawn into her web of lies believing she was true to his heart. His mind and soul were blind following the belief of his heart alone. The heart alone could not see the truth fulfilling the blind leading the blind they both will fall into the ditch (Mtt. 15:14). The sight of her with another man shocked his mind back into reality and stopped the will of his soul for her anymore. His heart fell victim to a player and user of people. He had more pain this time around than he did before when his mind was in love because his heart of belief was totally wrapped around her to be the truth. The realization of seeing her betrayal and the dawning light the whole school saw her and not one soul attempted to save him, but allowed the evil game of his heart to continue.  Another life lesson learned on his own without getting out of control or stuck with a life time of suffering with the wrong person.

SOUL – WILL/ACTION

Our soul has the will, action, and function of going forward with things in life. It is the driving life force of a decided direction and focus. A young man who had tasted the highs and lows of the world from intoxicating liquids, evil intended people, and other bad things turned his life over to God. His love for God was so strong his will was to be in the vocation of doing work for God alone. His driving force, his soul, was to do whatever it takes to be a full-time preacher of God because his love shut off his other member’s voices (mind and heart). His soul convinced his mind and heart to follow his will no matter the cost. It was a noble cause to do good, not evil, and be full-time in the ministry of God, but he needed all three (mind, heart, and soul) to be clear in understanding and perception.

He was willing to go and do whatever it took for the fulfillment of his own will. He moved out of his home state to another for the cause of training and becoming a full-time minister for God. His soul/will was driving his every move with his mind and heart following. He met an elderly gentleman who shared he had been in the ministry for twenty something years, but only from the pew. The older gentleman never was a pastor a church, hardly ever preached or taught. The young preacher said to himself he would not go twenty something years before accepting it was not meant to be for him. The young man continued on sheer will pushing forward to the day he would fulfill the love of his will to be a full-time minister for the God he loved.

Young ladies of the church and other churches would chase after him from the brunette, the blonde, and the crystal green eyes, but none had matched his will and focused destiny. The young man locked onto a preacher’s daughter. His driving will convinced his mind with facts about this young preacher’s daughter. She sings, plays an instrument, and faithful to church functions. His will for the ministry subconsciously saw her as a means to completing his soul’s desire. He took her as his wife believing this was the will for the ministry. The ingredient of blindness exists in all three levels no matter how good, bad, or noble the cause may be. The ingredient of seeing exists in all three levels if called upon. “Love is blind” when anyone of these are out of alignment of each other.

To fully see with perception and hear with understanding your mind, your heart, and your soul must be all aligned and link as one. You cannot love with your thoughts only and survive in happiness. You cannot love with your heart believing the surface only and avoid the sorrows of life. You cannot love with your soul only driving for a goal that is not meant for you. Each one of these levels separately will send you spiraling out of control looking, locking, and longing for the wrong things in life. The price you pay will be higher than what you are wanting to pay.

Truth is complete when all three are seeing. ‘Soulmate‘ was formed to try to identify what is like to have your mind, heart, and soul aligned with total agreement towards someone. It was a term to point out a completeness of all areas in their life was satisfied. It was claiming the mind has satisfactory interaction, the heart has complete in comfort, and the soul has the same walking side by side direction in life. It is rare in this life to witness this previous sentence of having equal thoughts, compassion, and goals. The majority of people make do with partial existence of different combinations of mind, heart, and soul. Those who try to walk the good path of life survive with their mind in control, their heart of hope of a better tomorrow, and their soul to persevere until the end. Those who are on the attempting to satisfy themselves path of life survive with filling their minds with lies, false highs (drugs, sex, money) to their heart, and directions with dead ends.

Would you like to experience having your mind, heart, and soul lined up without the ingredient of blindness playing a part? Would you like to experience complete trust without fear of a blind side attack? Would you like to feel the rare connection of being one like the ‘Soulmate‘ implies? Finding this experience in other people has very low chances as most of us have come to know, but there is a guaranteed of finding this connection in God. God is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Heb. 13:8).

I always wondered at the depth of the greatest commandment of the Bible that you are to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” (Mtt. 22:37). As the scripture reads I have kept them separate and in their place. I have imagined my mind in my head, my heart in my chest, and my soul the living force through out my body. This was from a physical view of the mind, heart and soul. I never considered them to be as one. God knows when we line up our mind with truth, wrap our heart of belief around it, and put our soul/will into motion the complete peace of oneness merges with Him the giver of life and life more abundantly. When these three levels of love are in an alignment it creates a oneness of truth in thoughts, belief, and will that no force can break. This combination equals to God’s oneness towards us. This is why Jesus did what he did everyday for us. God and the man Jesus were complete as one in mind, heart, and soul/will.

The ‘Soulmate‘ experience can be found in God who sees you one hundred percent as you are and still wants to be in your life. He still wants your love to be one with His love sharing your heart, your soul, and your mind with His. He is not so far away from you like a person on the other side of the earth. He is doing things right now for you to easily seek Him, reach out to Him, and find Him because He is not far from any of us (Acts 17:27). He knows we can experience the completeness (Col. 2:10) we so long to look for desiring to lock ourselves as one into it.

This ‘Soulmate‘ with God begins by us joining Him in a relationship of oneness of heart, soul, and mind. Our mind, heart, and soul can become as one with God. He wants to welcome us into His family. The only way into God’s family and experience this oneness is to be born again. You can be born again leaving behind the deceptions, blindness, and false loves of this world. He will never leave you nor forsake you (Heb. 13:5). To enter into His family and a personal relationship with Him all we have to do is three things matching the mind, heart, and soul. We are to turn our backs on the wrong things in this life as he did, take on His name like a marriage in water baptism in Jesus name applying his blood shed on Calvary washing away our sins, and accepting His Spirit inside with our spirit allowing Him to be one with our voice speaking praises of freedom and worship with another language as He gives us what to speak (Acts 2:1-4, 38, 39). This is a powerful life changing experience opening your eyes at each level of love with your heart, your soul, and your mind.

Your struggles of surviving the levels of life you are living will be totally changed. If before God you were surviving with your mind over your present situation. You will now have your heart and soul comforted together with God in all three. If before God you were surviving with your heart of hop of a better tomorrow will come. You will now have the peace of mind and completeness of soul together with God in all three. If before God you were surviving with the sheer will of your soul. You will now have your thoughts filled with goodness and your heart filled with joy together with God in all three. You will have the best roommate inside your body with your spirit than anyone could have in this world.

Don’t struggle any more alone inside your body, seek God, and allow the light to chase away the blindness on each level opening the eyes of your mind, heart, and soul as one to the best experience of love that could happen right inside you.